Sunday morning – one of my favourite moments of the week. This Sunday in particular was special. A misty, early morning bike ride amongst the mossy trees in the heart of North Vancouver’s forest with a best friend. No hangover, no wasting the day away but having too much fun the night before, but rather grabbing the day with a big handful of bliss. Calm, honest, healthy BLISS!
This is pretty much all I’ve been doing lately. Not too much. This weekend wasn’t your super adventurous and exciting weekend. I went solo to Squamish yesterday afternoon after a long, beautiful run around Stanley Park. I even had a little moment with an eagle as I was running in the rain with no one in site. Bliss. I went to my favourite spot on the water in Squamish (on the right in the bottom picture next to the river), ordered a burger and a glass of wine. I sat there by myself, no book or notepad as a coverup mask. Just the view savouring my small glass of wine, listening to the river bubble past. It felt great.
Some of my favourite moments have been eating in restaurants by myself. I treated myself to kangaroo inAustralia one night, at a fancy restaurant, and it’s honestly one of my favourite memories of the whole trip. If you’ve ever done something like this, maybe you can relate. I’m not sure why it’s so special. Maybe because you’re doing something nice for YOURSELF with no expectations or no one to do it for you. It’s all about loving yourself at that moment – I’m sure that has something to do with it :)
I’ve felt almost lame lately – not wanting to do too much. Not having the enthusiastic energy to be around a lot of people. I was being a bit hard on myself, telling myself that I should be out having more fun. But as soon as I found myself saying this, I tried to remember to be more gentle. I’ve obviously been needing some yin weekends, to myself. I obviously went way too out of balance before and now I’m all the way on the other spectrum. I guess I’m learning to try and find a happy medium. But for right now, it’s a lazy Sunday under the covers, listening to the rain fall against the window, and watching some of my favourite flicks. Gardenstate, Into the Wild and Away we Go are my comfort movies – no reason why. Probably because they’re calm and they make me feel relaxed. Anyways, it’s happy movies until the hockey game, which will mean bringing the cozy comforter on the couch and being lazy from my living room. Ahhhh. It feels good!
Here’s an article a friend reccomended I read from Tiny Buddha (on my blog roll!), titled “What it means to really take care of yourself”. Here’s some of it that hit home for me. I liked her honesty and found myself relating to her throughout my read:
“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” ~Max Ehrmann
After the author found herself stuck on the treadmill, throwing yes’s in every which direction she realized that she had lost herself in the accumulation of doing too many things (sounds a little too familiar!). Instead, she made the decision to wake up each day, wholly, by connecting to who she was —to nurture herself from the inside out, to be with life instead of delay it—and, in turn, her days started to become more inviting again. Here’s some of the ways she began to change her life – to let more balance in…
“I traveled to connect, instead of using it as an escape.
I became a morning person and started each day with ample time for writing, reading, and practicing yoga, instead of rushing into the office, fighting traffic, and always feeling behind.
I found peace by journaling and peeling back layers to heal the hurt that was buried beneath, instead of pushing them away.
I started acknowledging my accomplishments and mini-successes and celebrated with small rewards, instead of rushing to the next best thing.
I slowed down, simplified tasks, reduced my online time, and committed to less, instead of doing, moving, and achieving, simply for the sake of it.
I felt. I embraced the sadness I’d been carrying with me and leaned into my fears, instead of placing a patch on them.
I listened to my body. I became a vegetarian and practiced mindful eating, instead of counting calories and agonizing over whether or not I consumed too many carbs.
I chose to let go of the stories I kept replaying about the past and the worries I created for the future, instead of clinging onto fear and anxiety.
I practiced saying no to the commitments that didn’t serve my values, instead of saying yes to everything and shorting myself with each added responsibility.
I created sanctuaries—weekly time for me to relax and just be—instead of waiting for burn out before replenishing.
I followed my intuition and listened to myself in meditation, instead of thinking and overanalyzing to the point of exhaustion.
I asked myself questions and allowed it to be okay that I didn’t have the answers right away, instead of being hard on myself for not knowing.
I began fully acknowledging the present in its entirety—every aspect, including the playful, joyful moments, and the uncomfortable, challenging ones.
Suddenly, the world took on a different appearance—a kinder, more meaningful, more abundant, and compassionate glow.
When we take the time to re-connect with ourselves, replace our fears with trust, and learn to let go of the things we cannot control, this is taking care.
When we listen to our intuition, embrace all of our imperfections, and stay authentic to who we are, this is taking care.
When we ground ourselves in the present, and make mental space to find clarity, this is taking care.
When we discover our interior barriers and find courage to dissolve them, this is taking care.
When we learn to be gentle with ourselves, this is truly taking care.
When is the last time you acknowledged the feelings that are asking for your attention? How do you take care of yourself from the inside out, so that you can fully experience life?”
Thank you Tiny Buddha for posting this article – I definitely got a lot out of it, and I hope you will too!
If you’re having a ‘feeling lame’ moment, or even a whole weekend of it, be proud of yourself for taking the time to take care of yourself! It was obviously needed!!
Smile with your heart!